No, the title of this post is not the beginning of my personal ad. Although, at this point, it may not hurt! I'm not even talking about dating, I'm talking about finding good girl friends! I never thought that I would be sitting at home, bored out of my mind, wondering who I can go see a good chik flik with. I've never had problems making friends... ever! But without the convenience of prom committee and a college cheerleading team, making good girl friends can be more difficult than predicting Lady Gaga's next clothing ensemble! It's not that I don't have any female friends, I have wonderful female friends that I love to pieces. My best friend, Ashley, I met in college and we have been best friends ever since. My sister, whom I refer to as Lynnard, and I are so close people usually assume there is no way we could be related. And my dear friend Holly, I have been friends with since sixth grade. I love these girls SO much, but we are all so busy living our own lives and living somewhat far apart that at times, I get lonely for a best bud that is in my stage of life: single, ready to take on the world and happy-go-lucky. Is that to much to ask? I don't think so! But how in the heck do you go about getting that said best gal pal? It's bad enough we have to worry about being attractive to the opposite sex, but at least with that we've had years of practice! By now I know (kinda) how the dating game goes: Boy meets girl, boy and girl flirt, girl flips her hair and bats her eyes, boy is charmed and asks her out and they live happily ever after in dating bliss until they get bored or decide to commit. But how do you get a good girl friend!?!?!?! When you meet someone that you think would be an awesome friend, do you say, "Would you like to get some coffee sometime?". That just seems creepy! I'm surely not alone in this. So I'll take one for the team and share a couple of things that I'm at least trying:
1. Make work friends- This seems pretty obvious. Getting to know co-workers outside the office can be fun. WARNING: Take time really building trust. When it comes to work, and competition, secrets aren't always safe.
2. Become a regular- Find a place that makes a good cup of coffee (or burger, smoothie or whatever you like) and go there everytime you get that thing. By doing this you are bound to run into the other regulars and strike up conversation. And you will have something in common, even if it is just a skinny latte.
3. Volunteer- There is possibly no better way to meet like minded people/girl friends than by giving time to something bigger than yourself. With this one, everyone wins. The cause has support and you find people that certainly have the same interest as you. To find some places to start check out Volenteers of America. This is a good place to start.
My hope is that with enough time and effort, I will find the friendships I'm looking for, but until then I'll be happy with my iced breve latte and a good book.
Amour*
Katie
PS: The picture in this this post is of me and the best friends ever. From left: Ashley, Holly, Me, Jenny (Lynnard) and Alexa (Rex). I love these girls!
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